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| − | ==Question: What does the Family Proclamation mean when it says fathers “preside” over their families?==
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| − | Part of family proclamation addresses general gender roles given to men and women. Fathers, it says, are to “preside over their families in love and righteousness and are responsible to provide the necessities of life and protection for their families.” Mothers “are primarily responsible for the nurture of their children.” In these responsibilities, it says, “fathers and mothers are obligated to help one another as equal partners.”
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| − | ===The definition of the word “preside”===
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| − | The [https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Etymology etymology] of the word “[https://www.etymonline.com/word/preside preside]” is interesting. It traces back to the Latin words “prae” and “sedere.” When combined, they literally mean “to sit in front of.” It was used in Latin to signify “standing guard” and “superintending.” Thus, the word carries the dual meaning of ''protecting'' something and ''leading'' something (or someone). That is why the word is included in others like "'''preside'''nt."
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| − | ===Husbands preside in the home===
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| − | Church leaders have consistently taught that men preside in the home. Paul taught in Corinthians that “the head of every man is Christ; and the head of the woman is the man; and the head of Christ is God.”<ref>[https://www.churchofjesuschrist.org/study/scriptures/nt/1-cor/11.3 1 Corinthians 11:3]</ref> The Prophet Joseph Smith explained, "It is the place of the man to stand at the head of his family."<ref>[https://abn.churchofjesuschrist.org/study/manual/teachings-joseph-smith/chapter-42.8?lang=eng#p8 "Chapter 42: Family: The Sweetest Union for Time and for Eternity,"] ''Teachings of Presidents of the Church: Joseph Smith''.</ref> President Joseph F. Smith reemphasized this when he taught, "In the home the presiding authority is always vested in the father."<ref>[https://catalog.churchofjesuschrist.org/assets/42c42f8f-20ec-4b12-80a8-2762676fdd63/0/0 "Editorial Thoughts: The Rights of Fatherhood,"] ''Juvenile Instructor'' 37:5 (1 March 1902), 146.</ref>
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| − | The appointment for the man to preside comes from heaven, as taught by President Howard W. Hunter: "Of necessity there must be in the Church and in the home a presiding officer (see D&C 107:21). By divine appointment, the responsibility to preside in the home rests upon the priesthood holder (see Moses 4:22)."<ref>[https://abn.churchofjesuschrist.org/study/general-conference/1994/10/being-a-righteous-husband-and-father "Being a Righteous Husband and Father,"] October 1994 general conference.</ref>
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| − | ===Husbands lead their families===
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| − | The Church's ''General Handbook'' teaches:
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| − | Presiding in the family is the responsibility to help lead family members back to dwell in God’s presence. This is done by serving and teaching with gentleness, meekness, and pure love, following the example of Jesus Christ (see Matthew 20:26–28). Presiding in the family includes leading family members in regular prayer, gospel study, and other aspects of worship. Parents work in unity to fulfill these responsibilities.<ref>[https://www.churchofjesuschrist.org/study/manual/general-handbook/2-supporting-individuals-and-families?lang=eng#title_number5 "Parents and Children",] ''General Handbook'', 2.1.3.</ref>
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| − | Elder D. Todd Christofferson taught:
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| − | The scriptures tell us, "The Melchizedek Priesthood holds the right of presidency, and … to administer in spiritual things" (Doctrine and Covenants 107:8). Brethren, this means that we are to take the lead in our marriage and families in attending to the spiritual as well as physical welfare of our wives, children, and even extended family. . . .
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| − | Unfortunately, in some homes it is always the wife and mother who has to suggest—even sometimes plead—that the family gather for prayer or for home evening. This should not be. The women in our lives have the right to look to their husbands to assume their duty and to take the lead. A husband should counsel continually with his wife about the welfare of each of their children. … Most sisters are willing and eager to counsel with their husbands and can provide many helpful insights and recommendations, but it will be easier for them if their husband takes the initiative to talk with them and to plan together.<ref>D. Todd Christofferson, “To the Brethren of the Priesthood: Your Spiritual Leadership,” Chile multistake conference, Aug. 26, 2018; as cited in Dallin H. Oaks, [https://abn.churchofjesuschrist.org/study/ensign/2020/06/young-adults/keeping-the-faith-on-the-front-line?lang=eng “Keeping the Faith on the Front Line,”] ''Ensign'', June 2020 [digital only].</ref>
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| − | ===Husbands work in unity with their wives===
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| − | The goal of this life, as taught by scripture, is to become "of one heart and one mind."<ref>[https://www.churchofjesuschrist.org/study/scriptures/pgp/moses/7.18?lang=eng&clang=eng#p17 Moses 7:18]; [https://www.churchofjesuschrist.org/study/scriptures/nt/philip/2.2?lang=eng&clang=eng#p1 Philippians 2:2]; [https://www.churchofjesuschrist.org/study/scriptures/nt/1-pet/3.15?lang=eng&clang=eng#p14 1 Peter 3:15]; [https://www.churchofjesuschrist.org/study/scriptures/dc-testament/dc/38.27?lang=eng&clang=eng#p27 Doctrine and Covenants 38:27].</ref> [https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Boyd_K._Packer Elder Boyd K. Packer] taught that "[i]n the Church there is a distinct line of authority. We serve where called by those who preside over us. In the home it is a partnership with husband and wife equally yoked together, sharing in decisions, always working together.”<ref>Boyd K. Packer, “[https://www.churchofjesuschrist.org/study/ensign/1998/05/the-relief-society?lang=eng The Relief Society],” ''Ensign'' 28, no. 5 (May 1998): 73.</ref> [https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/L._Tom_Perry Elder L. Tom Perry] taught, "The father is the head in his family. . . . Remember, brethren, that in your role as leader in the family, your wife is your companion. . . . Therefore, there is not a president or a vice president in a family. The couple works together eternally for the good of the family.<ref>[https://abn.churchofjesuschrist.org/study/general-conference/2004/04/fatherhood-an-eternal-calling "Fatherhood: An Eternal Calling,"] April 2004 general conference.</ref>
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| − | ===Presiding in righteousness===
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| − | In all cases, men are to preside in love and righteousness. From the ''General Handbook'' we learn:
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| − | This [priesthood] authority can be used only in righteousness (see Doctrine and Covenants 121:36). It is exercised by persuasion, long-suffering, gentleness, meekness, love, and kindness (see Doctrine and Covenants 121:41–42). Leaders counsel with others [and parents counsel together] in a spirit of unity and seek the Lord’s will through revelation (see Doctrine and Covenants 41:2). . . . Those who exercise priesthood authority do not force their will on others. They do not use it for selfish purposes. If a person uses it unrighteously, “the heavens withdraw themselves [and] the Spirit of the Lord is grieved” (Doctrine and Covenants 121:37).<ref>[https://www.churchofjesuschrist.org/study/manual/general-handbook/3-priesthood-principles?lang=eng#title_number15 "Exercising Priesthood Authority Righteously,"] ''General Handbook'', 3.4.4.</ref>
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| − | A husband can lose the efficacy of his priesthood power if he is not keeping his life in accordance with the moral laws and other statutes laid out in scripture. That is made clear in [https://www.churchofjesuschrist.org/study/scriptures/dc-testament/dc/121?lang=eng&clang=eng Doctrine and Covenants 121:36-44] which includes telling men that they cannot act in "unrighteous dominion" over others. Thus, if a man's family is to receive guidance from God, he is obligated to act in accordance with the commandments. He should strive to include his wife in the leadership of his family as much as possible. His authority is not equivalent to a dictatorship.
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| − | Paul counseled married men to “love [their] wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it; That he might sanctify and cleanse it with the washing of water by the word. That he might present it to himself a glorious church, not having spot, or wrinkle, or any such thing; but that it should be holy and without blemish.” “So ought men,” he says, “to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself. For no man ever yet hated his own flesh; but nourisheth and cherisheth it, even as the Lord the church[.]”<ref>[https://www.churchofjesuschrist.org/study/scriptures/nt/eph/5.25-29 Ephesians 5:25-29]</ref>-->
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