FAIR CONNECTIONS · FAITH & FAMILY
Someone I Love Is Struggling with Their Faith
When someone you care about has questions, doubts, or changing beliefs, it can be difficult to know how to help. You don't have to have all the answers to make a difference.
Lead with love. Make room for questions.
When someone you love is experiencing a faith crisis, your relationship matters more than winning an argument.
You may feel worried, confused, hurt, or uncertain about what to say. Those feelings are understandable. But you can offer something deeply meaningful: a relationship in which your loved one feels heard, respected, and loved.
Faith questions don't have to mean the end of meaningful spiritual conversations or close family relationships.
How can I help someone I love?
Listen before responding
Seek to understand what your loved one is experiencing. Not every question needs an immediate answer.
Make space for honest questions
Difficult questions about Church history, doctrine, or personal experiences deserve thoughtful consideration.
Explore trustworthy resources together
FAIR provides faithful scholarship and informed responses to help people investigate questions without pressure.
Protect the relationship
Continue showing love and respect regardless of where your loved one's faith journey leads.
A place to begin
FEATURED RESOURCE
Stay by the Tree
How can parents and loved ones remain true to their own faith while supporting someone whose beliefs are changing?
This FAIR presentation explores how to maintain loving relationships, honor agency, and navigate difficult spiritual conversations with compassion.
You don't have to navigate this alone.
FAIR is here to help you explore difficult questions with faith, reason, and compassion. Whether you're seeking answers for yourself or hoping to better understand someone you love, there is a place for you here.
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And then in James 2:14–17, it says, “What does it profit, my brethren, that a man say he hath faith and hath not works?” Skipping to verse 17, “Even so faith that hath not works is dead, being alone.”































































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For example, most of us have been guilty at some point of speeding. If we are aware that we’re speeding it can create cognitive dissonance.
How about if you’re on a diet but your boss springs for pizza—and you love pizza.
Weight of Beliefs and Experiences
The Role of Trusted Sources
According to a
Commitment, Religion, and Perceived Benefits
Option 3: Change Cognitions or Beliefs
Entrenched Positions and Resistance to Change
As one Book of Mormon example, we’ll explore the anti-Mormon argument that the Book of Mormon plates could not be made of gold because they would have been too heavy for Joseph to carry when he ran through the forest from would-be ambushers.
Confusing Rumors or Traditions with Doctrine

Seeing Things in Black and White
Expectations vs. Reality
When a Latter-day Saint is called to be:
The Nature of Revelation
B. Confusing Tradition with Doctrine
Shifting Understanding Over Time
Tradition and Resistance to Change
Language, Culture, and Interpretation
Understanding Different Social Contexts
Limits of Scientific and Historical Inquiry
The late scientist and philosopher Thomas Kuhn, for example, taught that scientific communities share a “constellation of beliefs” known as paradigms.



































